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Book Review: Thinking Things Over

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Thinking Things Over
by Charles Francis Guittard

My rating: 3.5 / 5
Genre: Memoir

There are 3 main styles within this book about two 80-year-olds meeting online and falling in love. First, there is a series of essays written by the author himself, Charles Francis Guittard, who is clearly very interested in history, especially that of his own family. The essays cover Guittard’s time growing up, focusing on what his parents both did to try to make him a well-rounded individual, with some included backstory of his parents’ lives. Then there’s a large middle sections that is a collection of emails between Guittard and his now-wife Nancy Davis Labastida, when they first met and got to know each other, all the way through about a week before their marriage. This covers only around 3 months, but includes a lot of emails. Finally, there’s a section of stories about Labastida’s tiime growing up in semi-interview format—Guittard asking questions for her to answer. The last section of the book is a fictional imagining of someone facing judgement upon their death, so I guess that’s sort of a 4th style, but that and the section about Labastida’s childhood are comparatively short.

Strangers to married in 3 months sounds crazy to most people, but I have to say that the amount of info they shared in their emails does make it a lot more understandable. I can also understand a desire to not wait very long to be with someone you feel so connected to, when you’re in your 80s. The emails read like two teenagers falling in love for the first time, though they had both been married before. There are parts of their romance that I did not connect with, but that’s not to say that made it bad somehow. Overall, I did enjoy the book more than I didn’t.

I question the inclusion of the short story at the end. It’s essentially a courtroom drama where God, Jesus, and the Holy Ghost are sitting in judgement over a man who claims to have lived a good life. There are 2 lawyers questioning making arguments and even questioning a couple of witnesses, but it leaves me really confused about what Guittard understands about salvation and eternity. He includes a lot of church lingo and seems to have a decent understanding of what is important to salvation, but at the same time, he seems confused as well. For one thing, the fictional defendant sort of claims that the Trinity is made-up, which he says to the panel made up of the triune God…so…that makes sense (unless he’s making the theological point that Jesus and the Holy Ghost aren’t God?). But more importantly, he talks about a “come to Jesus” moment vaguely and talks about denominations and baptism and tithing as if those are a big part of whether or not someone is saved. The question is simple: have you repented of your sins and accepted Jesus as Savior and Lord? I think the clear answer here for J. Hiram Harmless (the fictional defendant) is: no.

Though normally, I don’t have a lot of negative to say about an autobiography or memoir, understanding that the author has shared what they wanted to share, whether I wish there was more or less of anything. But, the dip into fiction aside, I will say, there are portions of this book that I had to skim. A lot was included about tennis and bridge, neither of which I’m particularly interested in (or know anything about at all, in the case of bridge). There are other personal details that I also skimmed, but I may just not be the right audience—I have a feeling that people interested in genealogy or personal family histories will enjoy those parts a lot more than I did.

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Book Review: Newsboy

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Newsboy: My Story of Hope and Second Chances
by John James

My rating: 5 / 5
Genre: Memoir, Christian non-fiction

When John James first stepped down as the Newsboys lead singer in the late 90s, I was in high school. I had no idea what had led to this decision, but the band kept making great music, so I was content enough. Then, I remember very well the Newsboys concert my husband, son, and I attended (it had to have been around 2009-2011, since it was soon into the band’s new era), when John James stepped out onto the stage to talk. I’m pretty sure most of the people around us had no idea who he was, but I did. I had been to at least one concert before he left, owned several cassette tapes or CDs of the early Newsboys, and had seen Down Under the Big Top many times (I even had several of his lines memorized from the movie—still do, in fact, and still have the VHS tape). I hadn’t seen him in a long time and was excited he was there! He began to tell his story, talking about his addictions and sinful behavior that had led to his departure from the band. He talked about the moment he thought about killing himself, making a joke about it, and the people around us laughed. I didn’t find any humor in it, though; my husband and I stood there with mouths agape. I’m pretty sure I was holding back tears. I’m really glad I didn’t know about any of that back when I was a teen and the Newsboys was fasting becoming my favorite band (especially since the info circulating at the time was largely worse than the truth), only hearing some of the details after James had allowed Christ’s redemptive work to change his heart and his life.

This book expands a lot on what he shared during that concert over 10 years ago, and James is transparent and vulnerable in the text, not hiding or sugarcoating his choices and downward spiral. He starts with his childhood, a foundation that shows that he wasn’t just paying lip service to Christian tenets when he first started writing songs and speaking on stage as the frontman of the band. But like all of us who are sinners saved by grace, he made wrong choices, which he then compounded with more wrong choices and the decision to hide those choices from friends and loved ones. He talks of danger points, like disconnecting from a local church and neglecting one’s personal time with God, and he ends the book with a very hopeful note. I don’t think I’d call it a “happy ending,” exactly, because he is still suffering some consequences from how he lived for a while. But the major theme here, which is infused throughout the book, is that God can redeem those that are lost and is waiting to do so, if we’ll turn and repent. This book is definitely worth reading for anyone who is a fan of the Newsboys (in any iteration), is interested in stories about the Christian music industry, or is in a position where you believe you’ve fallen too far to be forgiven by God.

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Book Review: Reflections of the Mole

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Reflections of the Mole
by Bill McDaniel

My rating: 5 / 5
Genre: Memoir

My husband and I were huge fans of The Mole back in the day; it’s really the only non-cooking-related reality show I’ve ever watched. I actually watched the 2 regular seasons with my teenage daughter, and then I found out about this book, written by (spoiler alert) the Mole from season 2. The book is exactly what I was hoping for: a walk-through of much of the filming of season 2—the games, the suspicions, the twists. After each elimination, there’s even something about the eliminated player, a sort of “aftermath” section, including some written by those other players. McDaniel also talks about his life before The Mole, all the way back to his childhood. His style is conversational, and I really enjoyed being able to get a glimpse behind the scenes of the show and into the mind of the man who was placed into the game to cause trouble. I would say that if you are/were a fan of the show, you definitely might enjoy this book. Otherwise, I doubt you’d have much interest.

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Book Review: We Bought a Zoo

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We Bought a Zoo
by Benjamin Mee
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My rating: 3 / 5
Genre: Memoir

Benjamin Mee tells the story of how he went from a DIY writer to a zoo owner, along with his family, and all of the difficulty that came with purchasing the zoo and getting the license to run it. Though normally, I don’t have a lot of negative to say about an autobiography or memoir, understanding that the author has shared what they wanted to share, whether I wish there was more or less of anything. I will say, though, that this book was quite slow and dry for a while. It picked up a lot when they actually acquired the zoo, and I especially enjoyed the various stories about the animals.

Various parts pertaining to Mee’s wife’s decline and death reminded me of my mom, who died just over a year ago from a quick-moving form of dementia. Mee’s enjoyment in spending time with her, even though that extra time was spent with him taking care of her in ways that aren’t so romantic, meant a lot to me. His difficulty with coping with his loss and the things that would remind him of his wife made me think of my husband—not that he’s gone, but how I think he’d be if he lost me, especially the part about various treats he would buy for her at the store. My husband does that a lot, and I can imagine just going grocery shopping being hard on him.

My least favorite thing about the book is Mee’s very strong evolution-as-fact worldview, which permeates most of the book. He even uses it to explain how people deal with loss, saying we’ve evolved to be used to the idea that a loved one might not come back from “hunting” or whatever. I’ve got news for Mee and anyone else with this mindset—we were not created to accept death. We were created to be eternal, and though man messed that up, God provided a way for us to live forever with Him through the sacrifice of his Son. I disagreed with a lot of Mee’s worldview, but I didn’t factor that into my rating. In an autobiography, I fully expect to get the author’s unadulterated worldview. Whether or not I would recommend this book for others, it’s hard to say, to be honest. Those who are interested in the business side of zoos may enjoy it, but as I said, it was a bit dry to me. If you’ve seen the movie and want to know if the book is similar, I haven’t seen the movie, but I’ve read that a lot of creative license was taken in making it.

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Book Review: Beyond the Wand

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Beyond the Wand
by Tom Felton
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My rating: 5 / 5
Genre: Memoir

Tom Felton, who played Draco Malfoy in the Harry Potter films, shares experiences from his time on set as well as parts of his life before, during, and after the movies. I listened to the audiobook like I always try to do with books like this that are narrated by the author. The parts of his life that he chose to share are best heard in Felton’s own voice, with some chuckles now and then and a conversational style that brings the stories to life. 

To put my interest in Felton as Draco Malfoy into perspective, I only read the HP books for the first time a few years ago and have watched the movies once through (working on twice now with my daughter, who’s watching them after she reads each book for the first time). I’m actually not a huge fan of the movies overall, but that did not diminish my interest in and enjoyment of this book. The last section talks about Felton’s time in rehab for an alcohol…overindulgence (he’s reluctant to call it an addiction, so I certainly won’t contradict him), which really seems to boil down to a need for healthy relationships in his life. I appreciate that Felton was willing to include this in his memoir, since it could certainly make some people think poorly of him. Personally, I applaud him for recognizing his shortcomings and needs and his willingness to talk about these issues. Not to sound preachy, but I know that anything short of accepting Christ as his savior will be a shallow, temporary fix, but all I can do is pray that God will lead Felton to the truth in His way and timing. I’m really glad I read this book and recommend it for fans of the Harry Potter movies or Tom Felton in general.

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Book Review: The Diary of a Young Girl

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The Diary of a Young Girl
by Anne Frank

My rating: 4 / 5
Genre: Memoir

It’s difficult to rate or review a book like this, which was written with no intention to become something read by others. Though partway through her time in hiding, Anne heard that diaries and other writings kept by people during this time would be of interest to the world later and started to make some edits to her diary, it’s still mostly raw introspection and secret thoughts. I think also that the translation left a bit to be desired at times, as there were sections that didn’t really make a lot of sense to me. But overall, I would say that, though the Franks and others in the Secret Annex were in hiding during the Holocaust and that fear and pain permeates the diary entries, it’s really more a study of being in hiding and living in close quarters with a group of people who have vastly different (or sometimes too similar) personalities. These people did not get along, even within their own family. Anne discovered that her family wasn’t as close as she thought they were and feels completely alone almost all the time. Anne herself is almost painfully naïve and immature at times, even while she talks about how much she thinks she’s matured and learned. 

My thirteen-year-old daughter decided she wanted to read this book, so I thought it was a good time to re-visit it myself. She was incredibly uncomfortable during one particular part that was understandably omitted from earlier publishings of the diary, and I would say that it’s a wholly unnecessary section (Anne describing in quite vivid detail what a female’s genitalia looks like). I really can’t imagine why Anne felt the need to write about that in her diary, but again, she didn’t expect it to be read by millions of people over the next several decades. In the end, would I say this is necessary reading for teenagers or for those interested in learning about the Holocaust? No. I’d actually recommend quite a few other books before this one (The Hiding Place and Night for starters). But it certainly does provide some insight into something that a lot of people went through during a very dark time.

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Book Review: Talking as Fast as I Can

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Talking as Fast as I Can
by Lauren Graham
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My rating: 4.5 / 5
Genre: Memoir

Published around the time that the Gilmore Girls mini-series, A Year in the Life, came out, Lauren Graham talks briefly about what it was like the first time around and in depth about what it was like the second time around, as well as touching on other major projects and influences in her life.

I enjoyed listening to this collection of various stories and essays in Graham’s own voice (since I listened to the audiobook). As a fan and frequent binge-watcher of Gilmore Girls, I appreciated learning a little about Graham’s life and her thoughts about her time on the original show as well as her return for the mini-series. I wish I had liked the mini-series more, but that didn’t dampen my appreciation of that section of the book. It was a little sad, though, to hear about her relationship with Peter Krause (whose last name I have mispronounced for years now), knowing that that relationship has ended in more recent years.

I will say (with some sadness) that this is the kind of celebrity memoir that many people probably read and say that the author didn’t give us the true picture, because it didn’t talk about people she’s worked with in a bad light or go into deep detail on most subjects. I prefer not to expect more from anyone’s memoirs (celebrity or otherwise) than they are willing and able to share. The only detraction from the book, for me, was the recurring joke where Graham says “Hi” to various talk show or news show personalities, assuming they will eventually read this book. It was kinda amusing at first, but it started to feel way too much like unnecessary name-dropping, especially when there were 4-5 all clumped together. But outside of that, I’m really glad I read this book and recommend it for fans of Gilmore Girls, Parenthood, or Lauren Graham in general.

(There are a few pictures throughout the book, so if you borrow a digital audiobook that doesn’t include the pictures, like I did, you’ll have to borrow the actual book if you want to see the pictures.)

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Book Review: What If Love Is the Point?

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What If Love Is the Point?
by Carlos PenaVega & Alexa PenaVega

My rating: 4 / 5
Genre: Memoir

Carlos Pena of Big Time Rush fame and Alexa Vega of Spy Kids fame, now married with kids, share the story of how they met, what transpired in their lives before that, and how Christ became the most important thing in their lives. Full disclosure before I start—I had never heard of Big Time Rush (as a show or a band) before reading this book and have seen the first Spy Kids movie once; it didn’t make a major impression, but I was basically an adult when it came out, so not really the target audience. The PenaVegas have a following on social media as well, though I’m not part of that sphere either. I was simply interested in hearing what they had to say about Living for Jesus in a Self-Consumed World (the subtitle of the book).

Overall, I was pleasantly surprised by this book. I anticipated fluff, but there really wasn’t much of that. While they don’t exactly go into the nitty gritty of sin, sacrifice, and redemption, it may not have been their intention to present the Gospel. On the other hand, they do seem to be addressing unbelievers, at least in part, and I’m not sure what is presented here is enough to really explain what one must to do have eternal life. This is the main reason I did not give the book 5 stars. As a memoir, though, it is pretty honest and vulnerable. Considering the fame that both of these two have had in their lives, it is no small feat to not be completely caught up in it, to see that there must be more to life than the emptiness that the world provides. I appreciated the way that Alexa, especially, pointed out the ways that she can look back and see God working in her life before she’d given it over to Him. It’s touching to me that she even admits that her first marriage might have been saved with a more full reliance on God, because even in the Christian culture today, many will justify their divorce as something that just couldn’t be avoided.

Carlos, on the other hand, is a really good example of someone who might be saved in the sense that they “said the words,” but the real relationship with God took years to develop to a point where he could trust Him more. These two have very different ways of responding to God, and I like how they view their marriage as complementary. My husband and I are much the same way, though in different ways. Though there will always be difficult times, a commitment to follow wherever God may be leading is important in a marriage, as well as in individual lives. That is one of the strongest messages that comes through in this book.

If you’re looking for a presentation of the Gospel message, you won’t really find it here. But you will find an open discussion of what it looks like to follow God and what it looks like to ignore Him. Though I’m sure single people can still get some insight from this book, it’s pretty heavy on wisdom for people who are married or in an otherwise serious relationship. Whether you’re a fan of one or both of the PenaVegas or have never heard of either, if the topic interests you, I recommend giving it a try.

Thank you to Netgalley and Thomas Nelson for providing me a copy of this book to review.

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Book Review: The Office BFFs

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The Office BFFs
by Jenna Fischer & Angela Kinsey
Read by the authors

My rating: 5 / 5
Genre: Memoir

Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey—Pam and Angela, respectively, from the TV show The Office—talk about their time on the show (both on and off set), how they came to be on it, and life after the show. If you’re a fan of the show, you’ll probably enjoy the stories about their fellow cast members, the directors and other crew, and ways that working on this show was different than other acting jobs they’ve had. I liked the conversational style and the topics they hit.

I listened to the audiobook, which was great, because there were extras like a letter about the authors written and read by Rainn Wilson and a song written and sung by Creed Bratton. It also adds a lot to the conversational style, and you can hear their love for the subject at hand and for their friends. Some reviewers have mentioned that this book doesn’t cover much more than you can hear about on the Office Ladies podcast, and I can’t speak to that—I’ve only listened to a few episodes. But I did enjoy the book, and if you plan to read it, I highly recommend the audiobook. (On the other hand, there are pictures all throughout the book, so if you can get a copy of the book or e-book, even if from the library to look through, you might want to do that too.)

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Book Review: Keep Moving

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Keep Moving: And Other Tips and Truths about Aging
by Dick Van Dyke
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My rating: 4 / 5
Genre: Memoir

Part memoir, part book of advice, I chose to listen to the audiobook, which Dick Van Dyke reads himself. Though I’m a few years younger than the book’s primary audience, I still enjoyed the advice, humor, and sections about Van Dyke’s life. As can often happen when you don’t already know much (if anything) about an actor’s real self and tend to conflate his/her on-screen appearances with real life, it was a bit jarring to hear some of the things about his life. However, I’ve read reviews for the full memoir he wrote a few years before this, and it sounds like this is pretty tame in comparison. I had planned to read that too, but I think I’ll leave it at this.

Some of my favorite parts involved Van Dyke’s brother Jerry Van Dyke, who seems to have a considerably different (and quite humorous) outlook on getting older. I was particularly surprised to learn that Van Dyke has never had any formal dance training; I am one, apparently of many, who always assumed he had. I appreciate parts of his outlook on life, while some of his take on politics and religion left me shaking my head. When he basically says that no one can really know the truth about God, I think to myself, “Is that the truth?” It’s an age-old argument that probably never solves anything, though. In the end, I mostly enjoyed this book, and if you plan to read it, I highly recommend the audiobook.

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