Thinking Things Over
by Charles Francis Guittard
My rating: 3.5 / 5
Genre: Memoir
There are 3 main styles within this book about two 80-year-olds meeting online and falling in love. First, there is a series of essays written by the author himself, Charles Francis Guittard, who is clearly very interested in history, especially that of his own family. The essays cover Guittard’s time growing up, focusing on what his parents both did to try to make him a well-rounded individual, with some included backstory of his parents’ lives. Then there’s a large middle sections that is a collection of emails between Guittard and his now-wife Nancy Davis Labastida, when they first met and got to know each other, all the way through about a week before their marriage. This covers only around 3 months, but includes a lot of emails. Finally, there’s a section of stories about Labastida’s tiime growing up in semi-interview format—Guittard asking questions for her to answer. The last section of the book is a fictional imagining of someone facing judgement upon their death, so I guess that’s sort of a 4th style, but that and the section about Labastida’s childhood are comparatively short.
Strangers to married in 3 months sounds crazy to most people, but I have to say that the amount of info they shared in their emails does make it a lot more understandable. I can also understand a desire to not wait very long to be with someone you feel so connected to, when you’re in your 80s. The emails read like two teenagers falling in love for the first time, though they had both been married before. There are parts of their romance that I did not connect with, but that’s not to say that made it bad somehow. Overall, I did enjoy the book more than I didn’t.
I question the inclusion of the short story at the end. It’s essentially a courtroom drama where God, Jesus, and the Holy Ghost are sitting in judgement over a man who claims to have lived a good life. There are 2 lawyers questioning making arguments and even questioning a couple of witnesses, but it leaves me really confused about what Guittard understands about salvation and eternity. He includes a lot of church lingo and seems to have a decent understanding of what is important to salvation, but at the same time, he seems confused as well. For one thing, the fictional defendant sort of claims that the Trinity is made-up, which he says to the panel made up of the triune God…so…that makes sense (unless he’s making the theological point that Jesus and the Holy Ghost aren’t God?). But more importantly, he talks about a “come to Jesus” moment vaguely and talks about denominations and baptism and tithing as if those are a big part of whether or not someone is saved. The question is simple: have you repented of your sins and accepted Jesus as Savior and Lord? I think the clear answer here for J. Hiram Harmless (the fictional defendant) is: no.
Though normally, I don’t have a lot of negative to say about an autobiography or memoir, understanding that the author has shared what they wanted to share, whether I wish there was more or less of anything. But, the dip into fiction aside, I will say, there are portions of this book that I had to skim. A lot was included about tennis and bridge, neither of which I’m particularly interested in (or know anything about at all, in the case of bridge). There are other personal details that I also skimmed, but I may just not be the right audience—I have a feeling that people interested in genealogy or personal family histories will enjoy those parts a lot more than I did.
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